sototallytyler:

genderbitch:

tranzient:

iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn:

strikematchlightfiyah:

TW FOR RAPE/RAPE APOLOGY/RAPE CULTURE

murinate:

gareth-bales-peen:

palopoli:

This photo was taken the night I was raped.

March 20, 2010.

The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends.

The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home.

I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped.

I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.

I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it.

Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps.

You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong.

I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too.

-Annabella

it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space.

maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”.

no, gaby. that statement is all kinds of wrong. 

I’m not sorry…WHAT. WHAT. WHAT WHAT WHAT. 

delete your reblog. delete your blog. delete everything.

Dear Shitnugget that posted the worst comment I have ever seen after a personal story like this:

Flirting is NOT consent
Touching someone casually is NOT consent
Getting a ride home with someone is NOT consent
Being friends with someone is NOT consent.

An enthusiastic “YES” is the ONLY consent.  That is it.  End of the story.  No arguing. No “but…”  No “yeah well…” .

Nothing this person is doing in the photo is enthusiastically giving consent to her attacker (NO QUOTATIONS. he attacked her, he is an attacker).

what a terrible person that should never open their mouth again. if there is no consent there is no rape. and this is CONSENT, not touching, not flirting, nothing but CONSENT. it doesn’t matter what the actions of the victim were, it’s about the attacker’s actions only.

Reblogging for OP’s message and commentary nailing the piece of shit rape apologist who is victim blaming her.

“If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.”

It’s that fucking simple.

o. m. f. g. i could go off on that effing trick.

I would love to know what is wrong with people. It’s never a victim’s fault no matter what they were doing before the rape. No means no. I think it’s sad that in our society rape is brushed to the side and many times viewed as the victim’s fault. It makes me SICK.

(via sototallynottyler)